Posted by DaisyM on August 28, 2004, at 17:48:35
In reply to Re: My T Dilemma » antigua, posted by gardenergirl on August 28, 2004, at 16:23:58
My Therapist has two offices...one I am in more than others and it is my favorite...it is sort of long and narrow, a little more than couch/end tables wide, but it lends itself to a desk at one end and the couch and his chair at the other. He keeps it pretty uncluttered but there is a throw on the couch and lots of pillows. It is quiet, upstairs and at the end of the hall. And surrounded by windows that look into the trees.
BUT, his other space is in an old office building, with a more public waiting room and the walls are thinner...you don't feel as alone and secluded. Not that you can really hear anything. But when we are working on the hard stuff, I often wait for the right space, "my" space. I've shared this with him, and he is fine talking about what makes me comfortable or not.
I think you need to bring it up. After 13 years, it probably feels very jarring, something isn't right, and your sense of stability is shaken. Maybe together you could figure out how to make the room feel better. Is there something that was in the old office that could be placed in view in this new office to help? And don't forget to consider how it smells. This is a powerful sense and can cause very intense emotional reactions.
As far as not needing her, you are making pretty steady progress the past few months. This doesn't seem the right time to stop. I'll be interested to hear what she says and what you guys do.
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