Posted by pegasus on August 9, 2004, at 23:40:34
In reply to I cant go without therapy!, posted by Pandabear on August 9, 2004, at 18:36:42
Pandabear,
Being attached like that is nothing to be ashamed of, at least in my opinion. A lot of us become very attached to our therapists. Some therapy theories even say that an attachment like that is what helps you heal in therapy. So, it's not shameful - maybe it's even a good part of therapy!
I recently read a book called "A General Theory of Love" that talked about how mammals are set up to attach to each other like we do to parents and spouses (and therapists). It's our biology. I found the book really interesting and comforting. I think about it whenever I snuggle up to my sweetie.
When you get that much support from someone, of course it will take time to become more independent again. I don't think you have to do it all at once, though. Maybe just talking about it is all you're ready for right now. Personally, I think that's ok, and that's definitely how I plan to eventually leave my therapist (gulp).
Much luck to you. I hope you are able to do this in a way that feels good to you.
pegasus
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