Posted by gardenergirl on August 8, 2004, at 0:23:41
In reply to Re: new to babble, posted by 10derHeart on August 7, 2004, at 23:36:05
Welcome lonelygal,
You know we had a poster here who started as "rainyday" and she is not "partlycloudy" and a lovely person. Perhaps in time we will see a "not so lonely gal"? I hope that you find Babble to be a safe and helpful place. I know I have. I should let you know that I am training to be a T, and I also am in therapy myself. Just in case some of my posts sound "T-like".I can tell you from recent experience in training, though, that terminations when they are not naturally occuring, that is when they are abrupt or for some extenuating circumstance rather than because it is the right time to end therapy are hard for the T's too. At the end of my placement at the training site this summer I had to terminate or transfer all of my clients. Some I had seen for the whole year and had been transferred to me from someone else. Others I had seen less. A couple I had just gotten started with. So then telling them, "uh, I'm finished here on such and such a date, so at some point we need to plan for transferring you" was really hard. If I were the client, I would be wondering why bother to get started in the first place? And I might think that all the work I'd put in and trust I'd put in the therapist was for nothing...that now I'd have to start all over from the beginning again. Those feelings are perfectly normal. I was frustrated by stopping in the middle, too. I wanted to know how things turned out! I wanted to keep helping. I missed the clients too.
I guess I would just encourage you to talk about your feelings about this with a new T. This actually may be a safe place to start, as it's about your prior therapy relationship and not just about you yet. In addition, your new T can and should ask you for permission to get a copy of your records from your old T. This can be very helpful in the transition.
At any rate, I'm sorry it is so painful for you. Moving to a new place is stressful, too, so of course this may feel like a shaky time. And who would you call in a shaky time? Your T. I hope your new T is caring, trustworthy, a good fit, and helpful. Please remember that if it's not a good fit, there are other therapists out there. Sometimes it takes a bit of trial and error.
Okay, I've rambled on and on. Please take care and welcome to Babble.
gg
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