Posted by shortelise on July 30, 2004, at 20:42:40
In reply to transference question, posted by crazymaisie on July 29, 2004, at 23:08:08
I hesitate to write because there are so many people here who are smarter and more articulate than I, and who understand this process so much better. But for what it's worth:
I think the point of it is to re-experience a relationship in a new way. We hopefully learn some good ways of being from our primary relationships, but we can also learn some really lousy things, things that get in our way of living well, of feeling well.
Re-experiencing some of this with someone else is a way to sort of vimit it all up onto another person so it can be examined and digested better.
Now, isn't that just a lovely image!?
It can be so very uncomfortable. But it's also nice. I get to feel this closeness and trust that I never felt with my own mother - and toward a small, slight, balding guy who couldn't look or BE less like my mother.
It just occured to me that maybe my mother never meant to hurt me.
Now I will read the other repiles to your question.
Shorte
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