Posted by Dinah on July 30, 2004, at 8:29:57
In reply to transference question, posted by crazymaisie on July 29, 2004, at 23:08:08
I have a maternal transference with my therapist, and we've gotten a pretty good handle on it. I think our relationship has been a struggle on both our parts, but my therapist found a way of working that was helpful to me. I think that's the key. To tailor the therapy to the client and be open and sensitive to what's going on in the room.
I too found "In Session" helpful for both "normalizing" my feelings, and for helping me realize what I *didn't* feel for him and what I *didn't* want from him.
I think we're now getting to where the work we've done with the transference is paying off. I'm starting to internalize the safety my therapist represents, I think. To me, that's what a maternal transference is all about. A longing for the safety our mothers ideally would provide, but that either they didn't provide, or we didn't internalize properly. By not interfering with my maternal transference, my therapist allowed me another chance at that.
But maybe I'm generalizing here. :) That's what maternal transference meant to me, and how it's been helpful to me.
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