Posted by Dinah on July 23, 2004, at 6:52:35
In reply to Re: Met T on the road--Update, posted by Blossom on July 22, 2004, at 18:12:35
I think you need to be honest and tell him that you aren't trying to divert attention from your issues. But that your glimpse of his driving nature is having a negative effect on your therapeutic relationship, and therapy-interfering activities on the side of either party in the relationship deserve high priority.
It takes a while to absorb these things sometimes. I saw my therapist driving away from his office at the same time I did once, and he's one of those darters! He darts in and out of traffic jockeying for the best spot. Zooms off as soon as the light turns green. I suppose I could be charitable and assume that he was really late for another appointment and doesn't ordinarily drive that way. But it's enough in keeping with his in session behaviors that I am also willing to assume that that's how he drives. I think it often requires some adjustment of our mental image of them before we can really enter fully in the therapeutic relationship again.
I think it's fair to tell him that you need to talk about this to reconcile an angry driver with a safe therapist.
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