Posted by Pfinstegg on July 15, 2004, at 19:43:36
In reply to Re: I'm in love with my therapist, posted by Jadah on July 15, 2004, at 19:07:32
According to what I read on the TELL site, patients almost always feel that they are responsible for sexual boundary crossings, whereas, in both legal and psychiatric terms, it is NEVER considered the patient's fault. It is the therapist's responsibility to make sure that it does not happen, no matter what desires and longings are talked about.
You are caught right in the middle of this intense experience, with longings to keep it going, extreme fears that it will end, and, I think you said, an awareness that it is preventing you from developing a relationship outside of therapy which would be truly yours. It sounds like you do really know that only pain, insecurity and eventual loss await you: you may eventually look back on these years of involvement with your therapist as lost years for you as a person. I can understand how extremely difficult it would be, but perhaps you would eventually be glad if you took a step back from it emotionally, and sought other sources of support. I do hope that you will consider that - I think it's a very courageous step to have posted about it here.
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