Posted by Pfinstegg on July 8, 2004, at 20:07:18
In reply to Re: Attachment struggles - again!, posted by tabitha on July 8, 2004, at 19:18:28
I have all these same feelings, too! Since my T. is dealing with me as a person with different "self-states", we are often bouncing around between secure attachment, which feels wonderful,various states of insecure attachment (these feelings are associated with ambivalence, feelings that I am a burden, etc.) and detachment, when I often feel that I am not really safe in his office, am not sure whether he is the right T. for me, and feel it would be better to run out and not come back. I can run through all of these *states* several times in each session! At first, I was unaware that I was changing from one self-state to another. I would just find myself with a set of feelings which seemed like the only ones I would ever have. He kept pointing out the sudden shifts, and now I am usually able to see them occurring myself. I don't like some of these states at all- they are very painful; but he keeps mentioning that each feeling has good reasons for existing. This helps a lot. We can then usually go on to explore when and why these feelings occured in childhood, and how they are still locked up in me, repeatedly bursting forth and then disappearing again. I can really empathize with everyone one this thread. Who would ever want to do such a painful thing as therapy if they didn't need to?
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