Posted by Dinah on July 6, 2004, at 21:06:31
In reply to Re: angry, posted by shortelise on July 5, 2004, at 11:39:06
I think this is just one of those things that has to be worked out over and over and over again anew at each phase of therapy. It's hard to tell how much of what you're feeling really is starting with him, how much he might be pushing you to try your wings, and how much of it might be your own fears and perceptions. And if it is him, you have to hash out what's going on, and if it is you, you have to hash out what's going on, and if it's a bit of each of you, you have to hash out what's going on.
I know that every time it seems that I have successfully negotiated a workable therapeutic relationship, the change in the relationship that occurs because of the successful negotiations requires a whole new negotiation. It seems like a neverending process of such deep intimacy as no other relationship in my life. Because, let's face it, most relationships would be utterly destroyed by that level of scrutiny.
But anyway, perhaps you could see this as reassuring in a way. Obviously the termination phase of the therapeutic relationship requires as much struggle as any other phase, and that means it probably won't be any time soon.
poster:Dinah
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