Posted by karen_kay on July 1, 2004, at 22:49:08
In reply to Homework - A tough one., posted by DaisyM on July 1, 2004, at 21:35:18
daisy dear,
if i hadn't talked about my childhood, i'd still be terrified to shower, afraid of leaving my house, have the feeling that something is coming to get me, be so nervous i couldn't vacuum without staring at a mirror (again, to make sure something is coming to get me), not be a year away from school and most importantly, i never would have made peace with the past!!!!
should you do it? yes, as you can handle it. don't try to dredge up things that you aren't ready to yet (and they have a way of telling you when they NEED to get out). don't try to sit around for hours and think about things. but, don't ignore the things that you need to settle in your mind, or one day you may turn into what i was... a nervous wreck...
one good thing i realized is learn from the past, talk about it as it affects your life now.. it didn't help me to talk about it, just to talk about it. it helped me to talk about it as it affected my everyday life right now. know that what happened in the past happened then, and by noticing your behavior now, you can change how you feel now. you can't change how you felt then, but you don't have to live your life in fear, anger, shame or guilt right now. the past is the past, but it also plays a very important role in your future. this i learned firsthand. and that's one of the most important lessons i've ever learned.
poster:karen_kay
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