Posted by tabitha on June 27, 2004, at 18:21:42
In reply to Re: FMS vs. LPS...wxy and z now I know my abcs.... » tabitha, posted by zenhussy on June 27, 2004, at 17:04:15
> erm, any ladies here want to talk about childbirth and memory? Do you remember the pain? And some of you went on to have more? WHY?? Didn't you remember how painful the first time was? Or did that memory store in a different way?
That's another good example of self-protective amnesia. But actually I don't think this argument is winnable, even if we had some neuroscientists in here-- the brain is still too much of a mystery, and too little is known. I doubt it can be proven conclusively either way.
That's one of the scary things about therapy, right? It's more of an art than a science. It rests so much on personal truth and intuition.
I sense that the larger issue here is the question.. 'Are therapists trustworthy?'. My impression is that F may be trying to build a case for the idea that therapists are not trustworthy, and this debate about recovered memories is a means to that end. I could be mistaken, due to seeing it through my own filter. I find myself looking for skeptical websites about therapy when my trust in my therapist has been damaged. I'll build up a while new belief system about it. It's like I'm trying to devalue her, so I need her less, so the pain will be less. Then when the relationship is repaired, my belief system changes again. It's humbling, to see how much my emotions affect my intellect. I'd like to think there's some objective, invulnerable part of myself that can just think things through without being influenced by my pesky, uncontrollable emotions.
But I'm coming to believe it's really a trust issue for me. I've been told this in therapy, that I have trust issues, and I didn't really get what that meant, but it's getting clearer. This debate is illuminating it quite a bit.
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