Posted by LG04 on June 26, 2004, at 16:15:52
In reply to another therapy break, posted by lifeworthliving on June 25, 2004, at 20:17:46
wow you are lucky. my therapist does not give me her phone number when she goes on vacation. she's just gone. i know she feels strongly about this boundary so i don't want to try to negotiate it with her. this summer i will be in america for two months, and she is taking a one-week vacation while i am gone, and i am already worried about it, and i won't even be here!!!! (though i will be calling her from the U.S.) I HATE her vacations, I HATE when she is unavailable. Luckily she doesn't take them often. Today I knew she was unavailable if I wanted to call because her son had a Bar Mitzvah today. I actually did very well, I totally surprised myself. It gave me hope that it isn't ALWAYS so hard.
It's ironic that you brought up driving by her house. I just drove by my therapist's house last weekend for the first time. I did drive thru her neighborhood once and told her about it, she didn't mind. But I was too nervous to look very hard for her house. This time I specifically went to look for her house. It has helped me...I have a better picture in my mind of where she is. I think I needed to do it because I am going away and wanted to be able to picture her better. I haven't told her yet but I will. I am nervous about it.
I totally understand the vacation thing and the transference. You say you feel like an emotional retard. I always say I feel like the biggest baby. I think if we are more gentle with ourselves we can understand why we feel the way we do. And it's okay.
LG
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