Posted by daisym on June 22, 2004, at 18:11:02
In reply to Re: Question about 'successful' therapy » Racer, posted by antigua on June 22, 2004, at 15:14:19
I think I'm in the same camp as Antigua but I have had spans of time when I feel "better" instead of feeling the emotions that should be attached to what we are discussing. My Therapist thinks is "just" another attempt by my unconscious to control the feelings and keep him at bay.
In some ways, reading your post, I have to wonder if this isn't going on with you too. You are feeling old, frightening feelings, which are causing you to fear a disruption in the theraputic relationship. Which you have been very, very worried about. And your last few attempts have been torment. So, is your unconscious now throwing up these old feelings as another barrier? Just my amateur T "maybe" guess.
but here is the other thing: therapy is suppose to help you sort stuff out and I'll bet more than 50% of people go to therapy when they are in crisis. This is what drives them there. So it is your Therapist's responsibility to help you with the crisis and this, in and of itself, will help "bond" you. You are already trying to cope with this on your own and exclude your therapist. Essentially you aren't giving her the chance to prove she can handle it and be helpful.
(I want my own disclaimer that says this is do as I say, not as I do, OK? Because you know too much and I hear you thinking "yeah, but...")
Racer, you are ignoring life rafts waiting for the coast guard. Get in the damn boat and let her help you!
Please take care. I wish I could help more.
Daisy
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