Posted by gardenergirl on June 20, 2004, at 12:23:47
In reply to Re: help with DBT...jumping in here » gardenergirl, posted by terrics on June 20, 2004, at 11:10:35
terrics,
You are very sweet. Unfortunately, even with my internship year this year, I have to do 1-2 years post doc before I can be independently licensed. Your T may be a doctorate in SW, but if she has not had special training in DBT, it's not really something you can learn just be reading the book. Good supervision is essential, even for experienced professionals. It is built into the DBT model for "therapy" for the T, too.Gosh, I can so relate to what you said about being sensitive to criticism and feeling like it's just like your Mom. In my case, it's more my Dad, I think, but still. No matter what you do, it's never good enough it seems. DBT can help you realize that you have value as an individual. That helps increase your sense of self, which then allows you to work on change. I'm sorry the validation element seems to be missing in your therapy. I believe it is key. It's a huge part of what I use, whether I am specifically doing DBT or not (probably because of my own lack of validation when I was young.)Because I think all of my clients have value just as they are now. That doesn't mean they can't change or feel better, but they are valued. And you are too!
I'm sorry it doesn't feel that way right now.
gg
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