Posted by Aphrodite on June 17, 2004, at 2:40:51
In reply to Over Attachment Anxiety, posted by daisym on June 16, 2004, at 23:05:45
This is one of those "Do as I say, not as I do," responses, but please try to not worry about the feelings of attachment. When you have been independent for so long, relying and trusting another person so deeply is very scary. I often think about the fact that the more I divulge and trust my therapist, the more potential he has to hurt me. I am creating someone who could be very dangerous to me. Naturally, that creates great anxiety. The alternative, though, of just sitting there "chatting" is wasting my time and money.
Even though you can't see it at this moment, my guess is when you heal more, things will naturally improve, and you'll feel less dependent. That inner child will become more secure over time but not until she has learned to trust and her needs have been met over and over. It sounds like that adult self vs. child self debate rearing its head. I am going through this big time as well.
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