Posted by B2chica on June 3, 2004, at 9:56:40
In reply to Why Can't I just say it?, posted by thewriteone on June 2, 2004, at 16:06:35
thewriteone, sorry to hear you are struggling so, over such a painful issue.
Although i don't have a lot of great advice as i'm struggling with similar issues, please know that we're here to support you no matter what.your heading certainly caught my attention. Sometimes i think i'm the queen of "Just can't get it out!"
A few here suggested to me that i write down word for word what i want to talk about and even if i talk completely around what i want to say that makes it easier for the next session to say more and more about it. For example sometimes i'll say i have this thing i need to talk about but i can't, i feel angry with myself because i can't and i know i need to, i feel ashamed and guilty about the topic and i know i need help understanding it but i just can't say it outloud.
Then my T and i talk about my feelings and don't dive into the topic itself...this makes it a little easier each time.
I don't know if it will help or not, just a humble suggestion.
Also, sometimes just talking about it here makes it a little easier for me to say something in session. It's like a non-judgemental sounding board with lots of love.
HTH
Best Wishes.
b2c.
> There's something I've been wanting to tell my T, but I'm terrified to do so. I've been fantasing about a family member that sexually abused me through most of my childhood. I don't know why this keeps happening to me and I can't s
eem to stop it. I always end up feeling so much guilt and shame afterward, but that doesn't stop it from happening again. I don't know if this is common or what. I really need to address this with my T, but I don't know that I could ever say the words or even have her read them. I've been trying to build up the nerve for weeks, but so far, I haven't. I hope telling you guys here anonymously will help me with that goal.
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