Posted by Pfinstegg on May 28, 2004, at 11:12:32
In reply to Re: Therapy today » Pfinstegg, posted by DaisyM on May 27, 2004, at 18:22:02
Yes, there are things we try, although it's hard. He's like your therapist sounds- very intuitive- and will often say, at just the right moment, things like, "it sounds like the girl would just like to have a careful look at me, so she'll be more sure who I really am". Then sometimes I just do look. His face is always compassionate, with warm eyes, and it is good just to be able to look, and know more deeply that he's not my father. From having read the books by Allan Schore, I feel that it is very important for the right hemisphere to have repeated visual experiences of a benign face; that's one of the things that fails to happen with any kind of abuse. Schore thinks that that part of the brain can actually grow and repair itself, throughout life, and that's one of the principal reasons why good therapy actually works! Have you read any of those, either "Affect Dysregulation and Disorders of the Self" or "Affect Dysregulation and the Repair of the Self"? They are a bit repetitive, but the basic message is very hopeful, and is grounded in neuroscience, although Schore himself is a psychoanalyst.
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