Posted by antigua on May 27, 2004, at 17:11:03
In reply to Re: Therapy today » DaisyM, posted by Pfinstegg on May 26, 2004, at 22:31:04
I love the way that our therapists are the same and different, and that different things work for different people.
As I've said before, my primary T is a woman I've been seeing for about 13 years (o.k., 14 really). I also have a female EMDR therapist and I had a male therapist last summer for CBT (a total disaster) and a male Pdoc for a while six or seven years ago for meds before he moved away.
All in all, my primary T is my all-time favorite. We went through the maternal transference a couple of times and she has stood up for me when I needed her with the males in my life (when my own mother didn't). She taught me well. But I don't have intense feelings for her at all. Maybe I did once and I've forgotten it, but she is just an absolutely great person that I know I can count on. But there is no intense attachment. Now, she may not agree, or I may be fooling myself, and if she died I'd certainly be grief-stricken but I would find a way to handle it. She could never be replaced, though, I know that.
Part of me would love to have that intense attachment w/my T that so many of you do. But I don't. I do form those attachments w/male authority figures, but they are never healthy situations and always lead to trouble. I've yet to meet a male mental health professional who can handle me. That's not bragging, it's just that the ones I've worked w/have never connected with me (and yes, I mean THEY haven't connected).Yes, I have a problem w/men, but who wouldn't in my case? I sometimes fantasize about finding the perfect man who would understand me completely. But that would probably be the male therapist that I ever bonded with--not in my lifetime.
You guys are all so great. I don't feel alone.
antigua
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