Posted by 64bowtie on May 24, 2004, at 12:22:24
In reply to Does anyone want to talk about abandonment?, posted by terrics on May 23, 2004, at 11:11:17
terric,
Please consider a goal. Seems like a small goal. It's difficult to hold an image of feeling abandoned when we feel we are "ENOUGH" to withstand.
Look around. Our primary caregiver is no longer responsible for our moment-by-moment survival. Yet they abandoned us sometime and we still remember the feelings.
When we feel overwhelmed, we can make a picture in our heads of what we look like when we are "ENOUGH" to withstand what ever is happenning to us. Quickly make ourselves into X-men characters if that works. Later let it be ourselves, since it is us all along. See the plan?
Practice, practice, practice. Its inside us to survive even the worst the world can offer. Practice seeing ourself as "ENOUGH" to survive, and later, thrive.
Folks working on "Wall Street" do this in their jobs all the time. Why can't we do it, toooo? We are worth it, toooo!
Rod
PS: no one told us what we were feeling was abandonment as much as we decided it was that. Now that we are able to see those crumby feelings for what they are, the next job is to extinguish them, so they stop blackmailing us.
You can do it. If I did, so can you.
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