Posted by gardenergirl on April 23, 2004, at 16:32:35
In reply to Re: I told Ellen about the consultation today » crushedout, posted by Dinah on April 23, 2004, at 12:24:03
I think Dinah's right. Without looking at the ethical principles, which I know I have somewhere, but not here at the office (hmmm, probably should have here, too)...anyway, I'm 99% sure that it is at least a professional guideline if not an ethical one that a therapist does not work with someone individually who is seeing another therapist individually at the same time. I can check it out this weekend sometime when I am at home.
It really just creates too difficult of a dynamic for all parties involved.
Also, I also responded to the word "scared" regarding Ellen's reaction with a big red flag. It's really not appropriate for the T to tell you she is "scared" of your getting consultation. This feels like coercion to me as she is playing towards your weakness in how you feel about her. She may be nervous that you or the new T will decide that she has been ineffective if not damaging in her treatment of you. But it's her job to manage those feelings, not to share them with you in the hopes that you don't pursue consultation.
That said, I feel like you are much more able to explore and to manage your feelings about her and the relationship than your past posts suggested. That is good to see. I hope it feels that way to you, too.
Take care and good luck with this very delicate situation.
gg
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