Posted by pegasus on April 21, 2004, at 13:27:06
In reply to Tuesday's Session, posted by lonelygirl on April 21, 2004, at 12:11:29
Hi lonelygirl,
Your post made me really sad. Especially the part about how anyone thinking anything good about you is just taking a tiny detail out of context and applying it to you as a whole.
I think maybe we're just made up of those tiny details, though. I'm not sure there is a *whole*. So if some of your details are good, then that's part of you, too. It's not something to brush off or ignore. I guess what I mean is that a good detail can be good, on it's own merits. Doesn't have to matter what else is there. You can't turn off it's goodness by saying that there are a lot of other things that are bad. (Much as you seem to be trying!) And if all you can find are small details that are good, well, I'm glad that you can find those at least! I wish you could see a lot more! I see a ton of good things about you, and they are *not* small insignificant details. You're smart and perceptive, and have a capacity for appreciating your wonderful therapist (not everyone does, you know!), and you're articulate, and concerned about other folks here on babble. Those are *big* things. Don't throw them away!!!
Besides, I have trouble with the concept of "good" and "bad" when it comes to describing things about ourselves. I think they just are what they are, and you put the "good" or "bad" onto them. And here I mean "you" in the largest sense, which includes societal and family influence, etc., which are a huge force. But anyway, the fact that those judgements are constructed by us means that we can (maybe with a lot of help) learn to take them off.
pegasus
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