Posted by shadows721 on April 21, 2004, at 12:58:11
In reply to I'm jealous of my t's other clients...., posted by KindGirl on April 21, 2004, at 1:44:28
This is a transference. You are projecting the unmet feelings from your mom on to the t. This is actually a good sign that your therapy is working. You are starting to have feelings of unmet needs surface to be worked through. I think the other girl represents some sort of competition in your mind. She is the "other person" in the t's life. Who does she really remind you of?
"I know In Session talks about this in that section where she says it is like you have to hurry and put your clothes on so someone else can "use" your therapist on YOUR couch and it does feel like that a lot."This is another transference. This is not really about your therapist. This has to do with a feeling of being used by someone in your past. It strikes me with a sexual tone to it - "putting back on clothes in a hurry". Again, what does this remind you of? It maybe buried so deep that it's in your subconscious now.
Don't take your feelings as a bad thing. You know deep down they are not realistic for this therapist. It is a projection of powerful needs that went unmet in your past.
Bring up these feelings in therapy and see what's really going on here. Once you work through this, you will see it didn't have anything to do with therapist. After all, you don't know anything about her personally and do not interact with her outside of therapy. Therefore, these feelings are a transference. Transference can be a powerful awakening of deep seated pain that is unresolved.
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