Posted by pegasus on April 21, 2004, at 11:49:40
In reply to I'm jealous of my t's other clients...., posted by KindGirl on April 21, 2004, at 1:44:28
Hi KindGirl,
I'm really sorry for your pain about this. I've been there myself. It does hurt, and it's confusing. I wish Ts would be more conscientious about that. I hope you'll tell her how it made you feel. It seems like something that it would be good to have an understanding about.
I used to always show up a tad late, so I wouldn't have to see the person before me. And then I'd usually leave early so I wouldn't have to see the person behind me. I always wished he could just stop existing when I wasn't in his office (unless, of course, I needed to call him!).
One thing that I noticed in your post was a bit of black or white thinking. Your therapist is either all yours, and will always call you back, or you mean nothing to her and she's only seeing you for the money. I bet it's somewhere in the middle in reality. Hopefully more toward the caring side!
I don't mean to excuse her not calling you back; that is always a really painful thing. And yet, I bet when you talk to her about it you'll find that there was some reasonable explanation, other than that you mean nothing to her. I bet you mean a lot to her. Maybe not as much as you'd *like* to mean to her, but a lot. So, that counts for something, right? I really deeply believe that most Ts care a lot about their clients. The fact that you pay does *not* mean that they don't care. It means that they care enough that they want to be able to afford to really be there for you. If you didn't pay, they wouldn't be able to afford a whole hour with you every week (or whatever it is).
pegasus
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