Posted by DaisyM on April 20, 2004, at 18:38:32
In reply to P.S., posted by LG04 on April 20, 2004, at 14:59:01
Wow, LG, such a complicated situation and such powerful emotions. I can only tell you that I totally relate to the push/pull of dependency, but this is my first and only time in therapy so I have as yet to "leave" a therapist. I have all the same issues you do so allowing myself to admit to being attached to my Therapist is really new and somehow healing and humiliating at the same time. I grew up with such a strong message of "stand on your own two feet" and "smart women figure things out for themselves" that when I let my Therapist get too close, I freak out.
I think the prevailing wisdom is that if therapy is working, don't mess with it. But it shouldn't be "your life". It should help you live your life. If you see that you will do that, by making the choice to stay, I think that is great. If you are giving up a great deal of your dreams, I think you have to look hard at those abandonment fears and see if you can work through them.
Bad timing stinks. I'm curious what your Therapist says.
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