Posted by fallsfall on April 20, 2004, at 18:02:22
In reply to boundaries » fallsfall, posted by crushedout on April 20, 2004, at 15:06:01
Yes, I would consider that a boundary violation. But it does seem to be acceptable to run over if circumstances are usual. The times when it has made sense to me were times when I was suicidal and my therapist ran over in order to get me to agree to call her before hurting myself.
It *could* be argued that because of the tenuousness of the relationship that this *was* an unusual circumstance. Things that put therapy in jeopardy (which includes having the client quit) do have a high priority in therapy. If the client doesn't come to therapy, then therapy can't accomplish anything.
45 minutes, though, seems like more than a session "overrun". And it sounds like she sort of planned to do it that way. If that was the case, then she should have asked if you wanted to do a double session, and she should have charged you for it.
That's my opinion, anyway. I wouldn't leave just because of a single long session. I think that you need to watch out more for her telling you that she *needs* you to stay, or other expressions of her affection.
I'd be interested in what other people think.
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