Posted by crushedout on April 15, 2004, at 12:28:02
In reply to Re: instincts, posted by Miss Honeychurch on April 15, 2004, at 12:16:04
Yes, it makes sense, but I disagree. I think I'm more important to her than that. And I want to think so, so it would hurt if I thought you were right. But I really think the prospect of me leaving is more than a blip on her screen. She's told me as much, and I believe her.Also, I'm sure it will be a fairly big deal to her, because it seemed to be a pretty big deal to her that I simply *called* Dr. X. She was angry, hurt, and alarmed, she told me. I think she might not have been able to sleep because of it because she emailed me at 4 a.m. the night after she found out, but that might be wishful thinking on my part.
None of this is to say that she shouldn't be able to deal with whatever feelings me going to see another T for a consultation will evoke in her. But I guess I'm a little scared she won't deal with it as well and she should be able to, since I'm not sure she always handles these things in the *most* professional way.
> We have to remember that we as patients are play fairly insignificant roles in our therapists lives. They mean the world to us because they are our only therapist. However, we are among dozens and dozens of their clients. So I think it is easy to build up in our minds that we have an amazing relationship with our T which may be the case, but more than likely not. I guess thru all of this rambling I'm just trying to say that what may be a huge deal to you (as in telling Ellen you are seeing another therapist) may just be a blip on her screen during the day.
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> Does this make sense?
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