Posted by fallsfall on April 13, 2004, at 12:51:41
In reply to Re: I dropped the bomb on my doc (rant), posted by platinumbride on April 12, 2004, at 12:45:20
How frustrating!
> And now, as I write, I am feeling kind of pissed! Why do I have to wait another 2 weeks in knots, wondering if he will manage my medication or not??? I could spend these two weeks trying to find a primary care doctor who might be willing to prescribe for me! (I'm new to this area...I have no relationship with any physician or therapist here...
*** Two ideas: Call and ask him to notify you if someone cancels and you can take their slot. You probably should find a GP ANYWAY - maybe this is a good time to do that (and then when you do see him you will feel like you have more options because you WILL have someone to do your meds if he won't).
> I mean WHAT ARE WE GOING TO TALK ABOUT???? Is the guy just waiting for me to go nuts on him about how I feel he is just totally inept with me? I can be pretty mean! Does he want to see me get bitchy and mean? Is he going to use this as a power play? Does he just want to see me feeling great discomfort? Will he use this as a swan song to say a bunch of things that will cut to the core of me?
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> Or does he just want to get it all straight face to face? It could be just that simple....
>*** If you can, you should prepare an honest list of the reasons that you want to leave. Try to keep them factual, rather than emotional. Don't hold things back because you don't want to hurt his feelings. You need to tell him clearly exactly why you want to leave. (Go back and read your posts, you can get a list from there)
>I guess I am just afraid that he's going to take control and have me agreeing that we should continue psychotherapy and then KICKING MYSELF for agreeing to it!*** Bring your list, and find a doctor who can do your meds. You have good reasons for wanting to leave. Explain those reasons. If I recall, you wanted a less analytic kind of therapy - that is completely reasonable. If he tries to talk you into staying, then you could say that you will find a therapist for a consultation, and decide after you speak to her/him on the consultation. Then you make an appointment to see someone (we can talk about how to figure out who to see) and tell them your story and they will try to help you sort it out and decide what is best. That way you are not refusing to consider that you should stay in therapy with him (which can be a symptom of some illnesses) - but also someone impartial is looking at what is happening (i.e. it isn't HIS decision to make).
Best of luck.
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