Posted by fallsfall on April 8, 2004, at 7:40:02
In reply to Flight into Health ???, posted by DaisyM on April 7, 2004, at 19:46:23
Daisy,
I think that the most important thing is that you be honest with him AND honest with yourself.
You have been through an enormous amount of pain. You have done SOOO much work in the last 3 months. I'm not surprised that you are burned out and that you want a rest. You deserve a rest. But you, yourself, know that you are not done. You do have more work to do - BUT you don't have to do it today, or next week. You CAN take a rest period - to regroup and feel good about what you can accomplish at work and with your family, and solidify your relationship with your therapist.
Your therapist WILL allow you a rest (will YOU allow yourself a rest?). Talk to him about backing off for a while - but please don't disconnect from him. I really think you need the connection. Keep the connection and work on more mundane things in your life with him. Let him show you how he can take care of you so that when you DO get back to the hard stuff you *know*, in your bones and soul, that he can and will take care of you. Building a solid relationship, while you rest from the excruciating issues, will be a very productive task.
Ask him to help you rest - ask him to help you stay away from the hard stuff for some period of time that the two of you agree to. Then, when it *is* time to go back to the hard stuff, you will be well prepared. Pace yourself - hmmm. "Pace yourself" is probably a concept that both of us could use in most every corner of our lives... I'll try - will you?
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