Posted by pegasus on April 1, 2004, at 15:12:08
In reply to Re: argh - termination - help?, posted by shortelise on April 1, 2004, at 13:48:47
I think it's good to have some time for termination, so you can communicate some of the feelings that go along with it, and make it be how you want it to. Just quitting is like reacting instead of acting. Do you know what I mean? It's good to be able to be conscious and choose your actions, rather than just do reflex things in response to the immediate emotions.
I terminated with a T last December, and we had about 8 sessions between him telling me he was moving, and our last session. I didn't want to go through the torture of it, but I did get some major things done during those 8 weeks. And we had a really good goodbye for which I am very grateful. The part that was the most important to me was that I had a chance to think about what I needed before I said goodbye, and we addressed all of those things. And we made a plan for contact afterwards, and had a chance to tell each other about our good wishes for each other etc. I think it really helped me to go through that, even though it was painful.
- p
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