Posted by pegasus on March 14, 2004, at 16:33:55
In reply to Can't Stop Crying, posted by Raindancer on March 12, 2004, at 15:46:48
I saw this back when you first posted, and it reminded me of myself back in January, when my T had just left town. I wanted to say something comforting to you, but I guess I'm still too close to it to know of anything comforting.
What I can say is that my new T has been surprisingly helpful. I was terrified of starting over with someone new, because she didn't know my stuff, and when I started therapy with my old T it was *really hard* for a *long* time. I didn't want to go through that again.
But I found that I didn't have to go through it again. I wish I'd been able to understand that ahead of time. It *did* actually help to talk to a different T, even when I didn't have a relationship with them before hand. A lot of the stuff I had worked out with my old T *did* actually transfer to my new T. I really recommend seeing someone else - at least for a while - if you have any options for that at all.
Also, one thing that has helped a lot is staying in occasional contact with my old T. We made it pretty clear before he left what I might do to contact him, and how he'd likely respond.
Someone on babble also recommended finding some things you can do after your last session that help you feel connected. I think she visited a coffee shop and ordered her T's favorite coffee drink. I've been reading about the location that my T moved to, checking the weather, that kind of thing. And I've been reading books that he recommended. It's amazing what silly little things can help you feel connected.
But, basically, this situation is just hard, I know it. You can make it through, though. We'll help you. Feel free to post about how much it sucks. Get all your feelings of abandonment and betrayal out there if it helps you.
I wish you lots of luck.
- p
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