Posted by Asya on February 29, 2004, at 0:26:19
In reply to Why am I wanting to push my T. away right now?, posted by KindGirl on February 28, 2004, at 22:08:02
KindGirl
I can totally relate to at least a portion of what you're going through. I, too, feel like, I NEVER asked for THIS--all this obsession and missing her and wanting her to be a real part of my life--in a way, I almost wish I had never met her so I don't have to suffer the inevitable pain of losing her.But, hang in there. A good coping strategy begins with this simple adage: don't fight it. Let the obsessive, painful thoughts of missing her come. Don't resist them. Think about her and bask in the warmth of fuzziness of it all. This is FINE. You are pernitted to become attached to her and feel like you need her.
When you ask yourself what she would think of this or that, notice if, in your head, she answers. As you start to pay more attention to when you think of her, how she might answer, and what you need her advice/opinions and help on, a magical thing will start to happen: you'll start to trust yourself more, have more insight.
When you miss her and can't speak with her, a good exercise is to write her a letter, just write, gush. You never have to give it to her, but it gives the sense of communicating with her.
Remember that when therapy seems tough is usually when its working and that you have started to do something you've never been allowed to do freely and wihout fear before in your life- develop a trusting, caring relationship. Let it happen, bask in it, enjoy it. She wants to help you, she is there for you, and there is nothing to be afraid of. Above all, know you have support here and that there are lots of others experiencing what you are. I miss my T so much today, for example. I hope this helped and take care, keep posting....
poster:Asya
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