Posted by pegasus on February 18, 2004, at 14:38:56
In reply to all about the fluff...., posted by justyourlaugh on February 18, 2004, at 11:44:11
I deal with this by giving myself an assignment for each session. It'll be something like: Today I'm going to *at least* mention my sister, and ask my T if she has any crayons I could use, and whether she has talked to my old T.
I usually try to throw in something I want to know about, something fun, and something hard (but only a manageable piece of it). And I keep it short. The way this helps me, is that if I achieve my agenda, then I have a sense of acomplishment about the session. Of course, if I don't, then I feel like a failure and that's when I cry myself to sleep like you describe. That's why I keep it simple, but relevant. It helps me when I get discombobulated (which I always do). I just try to remember my minimal agenda, which is always relatively safe or at least limited, but topics that aren't totally irrelevant.
And if I find myself with 5 minutes to go, and I haven't covered my agend, I'll just blurt out the things that were on my agenda. Like, "Oh, I had wanted to tell you about my sister, and ask you if you had crayons, and whether you had talked to XXX, and I didn't manage to do it!" So, then usually we get to it the next time around.
Or if that fails also, then I write to my therapist everything that I wanted to say but didn't. Just getting it out seems to make me feel better.
It works for me. I hope you're able to come up with a strategy that helps you deal with therapy better too!
- p
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