Posted by crushedout on February 16, 2004, at 11:54:29
In reply to Re: feeling hurt and abandoned, posted by Karen_kay on February 16, 2004, at 11:48:59
thanks, karen. yeah, that's what i was planning to do with my therapist. i've never called her on the w/e before or asked about it, so i don't know if she has a policy.as to my mom, i think it's pretty hopeless. she was really about as awful as i could ever have imagined. the last time she attacked me like this it took about 4 years to begin to trust her again, and now she's destroyed that trust. i don't think i want anything to do with her. it's her loss, really, because she's of no use to me. she's a childish, pathetic, stupid woman. and i'm her only child. and she has no husband. so she's really an idiot for burning her bridges with me. but i'm not going to forgive her because she will never apologize for what she's done. she only can see herself as a victim.
i don't really want to talk about that though. i was posting about my feelings about my t. my mother is much less important to me.
> (((crushed)))
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> It always hurts when you fight with your loved ones. Do you think this is something that can be "patched up" in the future, after things settle down a bit?
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> I know that I fight with my mom often and say I'll never talk to her again, but I often end up calling her a couple of weeks later to try to fix the situation. Do you think this is a possibility? I always try my best to heal hurt feelings, especially with those I love dearly.... Just a bit of advice..
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> Now, about your therapist... Have you ever called her on the weekend? Have you discussed the weekend calling policy? I'd take the email as a sign that it's her SOP to not call clients on the weekend, not just you in particular. On the bright side, at least she emailed you back to let you know she wouldn't be calling.
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> I'd discuss it with her and find out her policy for weekend calls. Also, find out if she's trying to enforce stricter boundaries with you, or if it's just standard policy not to talk to clients on the weekend.
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> I'm sorry she wasn't there for you when you needed her. But remember, you always have other support methods and systems. We're here for you. You can always post on Social as well... We'll listen! That I can promise!
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