Posted by crushedout on February 11, 2004, at 22:20:49
In reply to Deep Breath, posted by Rigby on February 11, 2004, at 17:23:42
But she said she was going to share stuff with me so I could idealize her less. That's what she's doing. So she talked to me about her depression and her meds. I think it's a good thing. I really do.I don't think I'm defensive about the "transference" stuff. I'm just sure that's not *all* it is, and those words get thrown around here so much they start to lose meaning. We really do have a connection. And it's not just about the circumstances we're in. It's as two human beings.
I totally appreciate your honesty, Rigby. But I think you may be wrong. But it's good to keep this possibility in mind. I do think she may be needier than she's supposed to be. I dunno. There's nothing I can do about it, anyway, since it's worth every penny that me and my insurance company pay just to be near her. Besides, my life is soooooo much better than it was just a few months ago. And that's not just because I'm in love. It's real, real changes I've made: quitting drugs (including alcohol), cigarettes, exercising, changing careers, feeling hope, improving relationships with family. I mean the whole gamut. So it's not like I'm getting taken for a ride.
But I really, really appreciate your honesty and concern, and I'll think hard about what you say.
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