Posted by crushedout on February 7, 2004, at 21:53:09
In reply to Re: don't get me wrong, posted by Fallen4myT on February 7, 2004, at 21:44:58
Yes, I totally agree with you. I think each person is responsible for him or herself, unless you are being directly destructive to another.I'm not going to do anything, really, from here, other than work on my therapy. There's no way I'm going to ask her to be my lover. I know she would say no. I may talk about the dim hope, but not as a question to her. Just as something that I need to hang onto, as part of who I am.
She said she's going to start sharing more of her self with me, disclosing more about herself, as a way for me to learn to see her as less perfect, more human, and perhaps idealize her less. This sounds great to me (I'm sure it sounds sketchy to many of you), but I think it will be tricky for a couple reasons. She's worried about me losing respect for her. I'm worried about falling more deeply in love. But either way, it's exciting. (Well, I guess if I lose respect for her, that's not very exciting.)
> I don't know but I think each person is responsible for their OWN behaviour and actions. To cheat on or leave my husband is up to me not to the object of my affection unless I was mentally unable to make a decision or a child thats JMO
> A question I am intrested in is...what do you want to do from here Crushed? Ask her and then ??? If she sez no hope? If she sez dim hope? I am just curious and you do not have to answer
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