Posted by alexandra_k on February 6, 2004, at 6:57:25
In reply to I got my wish, posted by crushedout on February 5, 2004, at 14:11:40
Hello again. I know I put my foot in it last time, but I shall have another go.....
I think that maybe you are depressed because while she admitted feeling an attraction to you she also made it clear that that would not be acted upon.
Now back to the issue of supervision......
She did admit that she perhaps didn't act so wisely in a few respects. Now to acknowledge this shows insight, but will she do it again????? Therein lies hope..... and supervision would cull that hope. No longer would these feelings of attraction be private and exclusive between the two of you (and all of us on this forum) but an objective therapists opinion would be brought to bear on the situation. That would probably be the last bit of hope destroyed. I know that it is painful, but I wonder whether this might be best for the long term. In the sense of you getting better so as to have fulfilling and reciprocal relationships with peers and in the sense that your relationship with your T may well be strengthened (and she will become a better T too which is surely good for her career).
I am sorry if this sounds cold. I really do sympathise with you and I too get that little thrill of 'but then what did she say, what did she say next, will my next p-doc do this with me do you think?????'. Just an objective (and probably completely wrong) opinion... ak.
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