Posted by DaisyM on February 5, 2004, at 18:52:14
In reply to contact w/T after last session, posted by pegasus on February 5, 2004, at 18:18:39
I'm sorry you are hurting about this. I've not experience this loss, but since it is one of my major fears, I've talked about it with my Therapist ALOT.
First, just a reminder that acknowledging something as *hard* doesn't make it stop hurting. Wanting contact with someone who knows you intimately, who helped you and who you have a spiritual connection with is normal. Not missing them would actually be more questionable.
But moving on is the goal...so sadly, I think you are right that your emails don't help you. My guess is that you wait anxiously for a reply, only to be disappointed at the superficial "good for you!" nature that is all too brief. (Apologies if I'm wrong, that is a guess.) Space is what you need, a chance to not compare new to old and to not *need* anything from the former Therapist -- like an email reply.
I'm sure your new Therapist can help you process your grief. I think it just takes time to mourn the loss.
I feel how sad you are. Take care of yourself.
poster:DaisyM
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