Posted by pegasus on February 5, 2004, at 18:18:39
I’m curious what you all will think of this. As you may know, I lost a therapist to a move (his, not mine) recently. I have a new therapist now.
I’m still so confused and sad about losing my old therapist. Sometimes it all seems great, and a good experience, and I'm so glad I did it, and I'm glad to have known him. And sometimes it sucks. How can it be OK to develop this intimate relationship, and tell all of my secret things, and then have him move away, and I'm supposed to start talking to someone else. I've had plenty of close friends move away etc. But this feels totally different and harder. I don't understand it. Sometimes it's really hard to *stand* him being gone.
I’ve emailed him a few times, and he replied (briefly) to a couple. I know I’m not paying him anymore, and he’s not my therapist, and I need to move on. But it really breaks my heart that a relationship that seems so strong can just go away like that. How is that supposed to be OK? It seems like a major flaw in the system. How am I supposed to get close to my new T when I know that the caring etc. that make therapy possible are so limited? It’s so confusing.
Should I stop emailing him? He said it was ok before he left. But I'm not sure it helps me, and I would guess it's a burden for him. Any thoughts would be very welcome.
-p
poster:pegasus
thread:309907
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