Posted by 64Bowtie on February 2, 2004, at 17:58:49
In reply to Re: Dinah-New beginnings, posted by lilmsbubbles07 on February 2, 2004, at 15:37:49
lil,
I am hear because I want to be here. I don't ever want to sound like I am SOOOOOOOOOOO proud of my self that I somehow indicate that others here are "less than". I am cheering us all on by being here. Three cheers for all of us.
I have grown. If I can, so can anyone, I swear! Maybe today is for "baby-sized-steps". I had to take them myself, when I couldn't keep my life in balance. What's unpopular and not trusted is some one claiming that it can be done without a therapist and/or meds. Instead, I suggest you not trust someone who says that it's impossible to find wellness without a therapist and/or meds.
I hold a bias that the final steps along the path to wellness currently is seldom taken with the therapy and/or meds still going on. So an earmark of progress would be that when therapy and/or meds stop being so impactful, that will be the signal to seek out a "guide", a "coach".
Nothing is certain. There is no "all or nothing". Listen to one thing I guarantee: We are all born equipped with tools to overcome our troubles and strifes. People, time, and the environment may conspire to encourage bad habit building. We have good tools to replace bad habits with good ones. What we were not born with is a guide or mentor included. We must find one. Its easier as adults. Children are so bound by parents that mentors for children must be very special. Alas, we are adults, so let's make the best of it.
All I claim is encouragement and nothing is a put-down. You'll see. Some time in the future I'll be prattling (babbling) along and you'll connect with what I say or claim. You'll connect when you are ready, and not before. Trying to find wellness itself in what I share as only abstract ideas can only mess-up what progress you have if you are not "ready". You'll be ready when you'll be ready, not when I'm ready, when you're ready.
I wasn't ready till I was 38. I was 56 last Wednesday and nothing shows, except now I walk with an "emotional limp"(that still doesn't show if I listen and wait for others to speak first, and don't open my mouth at a bad time and make foolish self-sabotaging statements.Rod
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