Posted by Racer on February 1, 2004, at 15:44:42
In reply to confused by therapist..and myself..., posted by Pandabear on February 1, 2004, at 15:26:32
{{cyberhug}}
That sounds terrible, feeling so alone and vulnerable. It also sounds as if a different therapist might be a better match for you. It sounds as if you're falling into a maelstrom where the more you feel unworthy because your T's questions confuse you, the more you expect to be unworthy and unable to understand what she says, and therefore unable to gain any helpful insights into what you might do to improve your emotional reality for yourself. Does that make sense? (Listen, I get to where I have to diagram sentences and *still* don't get them -- even words of one syllable or less. I have felt that pain, and I think it's pretty common with depression.)
My next comment is a lot less concrete. If I understand correctly, you think with a negative perspective, and are therefore being asked to restate negative comments in a more positive light? If so, here's a big pat on the back, because it's very hard to learn a new skill. It's even harder when that new skill is so alien to our temperament. If it were easy, you probably wouldn't need to do it. If it's hard for you now, you're probably doing it right.
{{cyberhug again}}
I hope that helped. From what you wrote, it sounds as if you need a more reassuring and supportive therapeutic relationship. I encourage you to look into other therapists. (I once went to 12 "practice sessions" with different Ts before finding one I could work with well. I told them upfront that it was just practice, and that I'd pay them, but it might be only one or two visits. They understood, and I knew I was working with the best option for me. Very empowering feeling.)
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