Posted by Karen_kay on February 1, 2004, at 14:42:21
In reply to Kids: Speaker, Crooked Heart, posted by DaisyM on February 1, 2004, at 12:34:21
as a parent I can't imagine EVER treating my kids that way. And it seems that the parents (mine) that I know now do not resemble who they were then. I'm glad people change but worry that I might be changing into my parents former "selfish" selves...that probably makes no sense...
**I understand that completely! Even though I don't have children, I watch my sisters with their children and am truly amazed. One sister is such a wonderful parent. She is patient and caring. The other sister is so much like my mother it is frightening. I call her on the telephone and she is always screaming at her children. It breaks my heart.
My mother is still the same as she ever was. But I still love her very very much. I realize that she has her own problems to deal with. I honestly don't have any hard feelings and it feels wonderful. Now, I can't stand to spend longer than a few days with her. But I still love her with all of my heart.
I hope I'm not like my mother. That's sort of the reason I started therapy. I began to notice that I was resembling my mother in many ways and said to myself, "Woah Bessie, you need help!!!!" I've gotten much better (AHHH! I hope!) I'm not yelling at my boyfriend anymore. That's a good sign.
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