Posted by jane d on January 30, 2004, at 22:04:48
In reply to Re: Re: How did I manage to irritate » 64Bowtie, posted by Karen_kay on January 30, 2004, at 20:24:03
Weeelll.... I appreciate the posts by both of you posts because between them I was able to figure out what bothered me about the therapist's action. A gift is a gift. If you don't let the recipient use it as he wants it stops being a gift at all. Putting the card in the file though isn't just choosing to use a gift as you want. Its choosing to make it not a gift at all but some kind of clinical indicator instead. It's rejecting the gift but not even doing it directly. It strikes me as being less like spending someones gift of money on something you know they would hate than like taking the money and handing it to the FBI to use in your counterfeiting trial and then telling the person that they shouldn't be upset because "a gift is a gift".
I can understand a therapist wanting to protect himself. I can even see doing it myself if I were in that position. But I'd still be pretty angry if it were done to me.
Jane
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