Posted by fallsfall on January 23, 2004, at 8:17:26
In reply to Crying/Emotions in T's office, posted by QuietHeart on January 22, 2004, at 20:03:54
It is unusual for me to NOT cry in a session. The sessions when I don't cry are significant to me (but then I always wonder if I'm not working hard enough). Lots of times, I will just have a tear or two rolling down my cheek once or twice or more. Usually, I don't have to grab the kleenex (my old therapist had a waste basket next to my chair for the dirty kleenex - I thought that was nice. My new therapist doesn't, so I take them with me when I go!?!?). So I rank my sessions on how many kleenex I need.
I cried the first time I saw my new therapist (quite a bit, in fact). I probably cried when I saw my first therapist, too, but I don't remember. They both quickly learned that if there are just tears running down my face that they can just keep on talking (I'm sure they note what brings it on). Being able to talk through my tears is seen as a problem that I have to deal with - and I do, most of the time. It is rare that I'm crying so much that I can't talk through it.
So I guess that with me, they see it as just another indication of how I'm feeling (along with smiles, tenseness, foot jiggles, seat shifting, looking away, sighs, etc.). It is a normal way of showing feelings.
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