Posted by Miss Honeychurch on January 17, 2004, at 11:27:22
In reply to Re: Feeling a wee bit self-conscious » Asya, posted by All Done on January 17, 2004, at 1:10:45
I never interviewed my Therapist, and luckily, it has worked out. To be honest, I put as much stock into your chemistry with the Therapist and how comfortable you feel with him as his orientation, etc. I STILL don't really know my T's orientation. I guess I would call it "eclectic."
I don't think Ts are bothered by your not asking questions the first time out. My T did make a point though of saying during our first meeting that I should feel free to be able to ask him anything about his training, philosophy, etc.
I think a lot of this stuff happens by chance. I first sought therapy last January and decided to go straight to the top (so I thought) and see a psychiatrist. So I did. And withing 20 minutes of meeting me he wanted to put me on meds. I said I would rather first try the psychoanalytic route. So he said OK, let me refer you to my Social Worker. And he actually said "I know you'll want to see a woman." Actually, no, I didn't!
But I gave her a try as well. I didn't interview her or ask about her orientation though. I had 3 sessions with her and there was NO chemistry. All she did was give me long looks of concern with never ending silent pauses. UGH!!! So I dropped her.
I now have a T who suits me. It helps a lot that we come from similar backgrounds and he has a lot of the same interests and can understand and participate in my sense of humor.
I'm just saying, always trust your gut about these things. You can interview all you want, but in the end it comes down to chemistry.
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