Posted by Penny on January 16, 2004, at 23:19:36
In reply to Feeling a wee bit self-conscious, posted by Asya on January 16, 2004, at 19:42:51
With my first T, I had never been in therapy before, so I had no idea what I was looking for and, therefore, no idea what to ask. I would expect that is pretty common. In fact, I called and told the *receptionist* of all people that I was 22 and depressed and who should I talk to? I had a friend who saw another T there, so I knew they accepted my insurance. And the receptionist said "So and so does a lot of work with young women with depression." She transferred me, I left a message, the T called back, we made an appointment, and I left my first appointment thinking "This isn't going to work!" I made a second appointment because I was afraid to tell her that I didn't want to see her anymore to her face, so I called and cancelled via voice mail! She called me back and spoke with me and said that she understood that I was uncomfortable, etc. etc., but she would like for me to come back again, and if I still didn't feel comfortable with her, she would help me find someone else. I had had one heck of a time finding a T that was taking new patients anyway, so I figured that was an offer I couldn't refuse. I went back the second time and stayed with her for three years...
So I'm sure that your T hasn't given a second thought to your not asking questions. The only reason I interviewed T's when I moved was because I was able to. I was in no rush to find someone, my pdoc was able to refer me to several that he had worked with who accepted my insurance, and I met with each of them (three of them) and asked questions that I knew to ask, but only because I had already been in therapy for three years.
P
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