Posted by Elle2021 on January 16, 2004, at 18:07:12
In reply to Re: Yelling, not an option (Long) » Elle2021, posted by Dinah on January 16, 2004, at 17:42:44
> You know, Elle, if you're introverted,
I didn't used to be introverted. And there are still a number of places where I bring out the "other" me, the extroverted me. And she works just fine cause she dissociates from the other part of me that is afraid of social situations. I'm talking about myself in the third person aren't I...
> By the way, Elle. I told my therapist today that I didn't think it was so all-fired bad to not like to be pushed. I told him it was like training a dog. There are some dogs that if you yank on the choke chain, they'll lock their legs. But if you pat your leg and talk encouragingly they'll work their hearts out for you. He liked that analogy. Perhaps he'll take it to heart.
Hmm, I don't want him to touch my legs... :) Just kidding, I know what you mean. I completely agree, and I like your analogy too. I think he should talk to me and be more encouraging. If he would just tell me that he doesn't think I'm weird and he's not going to judge me or think that I am unfixable. But, I fear that he already has that thought in his head. Doesn't he know that he has to take a different approach with some people. Not everyone is the same. The more he pushes me, the less I talk. It's really hard to sway me into talking about something I really don't want to discuss, like the sex issues. I have to give him that though, he did quit it with that. But, now his quest is to figure out why I don't have a boyfriend.
Elle
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