Posted by Karen_kay on January 16, 2004, at 17:55:46
In reply to Re: Some ruminations about what to tell our Ts, posted by Asya on January 16, 2004, at 17:20:35
Oh no! I'm thinking about telling him! But, the situation is different with mine. I feel SOOO guilty for looking at the picture of his wife. And he tells me things about her now and I don't really think she's a good wife. In your situation, I wouldn't tell. But, with my situation I think I should tell him because I'm at a point now where I trust him enough to actually come clean. And that's a big step for me. Also, I need to let him know that I'm not fond of his choice in mate, just so he knows that I know too much about his personal life. And this would be a good way for me to kill 2 birds with one stone. I may chicken out and not tell him. And I'm sure he'll be disappointed in me, though it was an accident. But, I trust him enough to say, "Look I think your wife isn't taking good care of you. I'll swing by and do your laundry so you can get some sleep." That is my way of saying "Don't tell me so much about your personal life, PLEASE!!!!"
So, in your case, it isn't at all necessary to tell your therapist that you been doing a few searches. A lot of people do them! I'm only telling mine because I feel very guilty and I want to show him that I do finally trust him.
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