Posted by Karen_kay on January 14, 2004, at 20:50:14
In reply to sexual boundary crossing » Karen_kay, posted by Joslynn on January 14, 2004, at 20:29:58
I agree that Bessie is a horse and that is why you so woaaaa! To slow her down....But, back to the important topic at hand..... (And thanks for the humor...I find it very important to reassure me that there are no hard feelings and such.)
I can see your point. And I do delight in the fact that I get answers to my questions. However, I'm not having any type of sexual feelings towards my therapist, nor would I ever sleep with him. I know this isn't the issue. I suppose the issue is if he is crossing a boundary. The odd thing is, when he said that he recently had a birthday I remarked, "Why didn't you tell me, I would have sent a card?" He said, "That would be crossing a boundary. You shouldn't know my birthday for a reason. Just like I don't have pictures of my wife up because you may compare yourself to her, ect..." So, he's strict about some boundaries....I see your point. I think that he is honestly trying to reinforce to me that fantasies and masturbation, ect are not something to be avoided or written off as bad. If he were to somehow avoid the question then I would get the impression that I was bad for asking about a "bad" subject. My aversion to sex is so bad in fact that I (I can't believe I'm admitting this AGHHHHH!!!!!) can't even touch myself. And it has to do with childhood trauma. The only way that I can seriously discuss sex is with negative terms such as dirty or bad. (When I told him that I thought about him when I masturbated, the way I said it at first was, "I have bad thoughts about you." It actually threw him off and was quite cute. He replied, "Do you think about killing me?" Wait a minute, is he just a smart a** like me? :)
So, I think by avoiding the question, in a way would be reinforcing, in my head, that having thoughts about another person was wrong?????? I don't know??? Someone else....Help me defend my shrink..Please!!!!!
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