Posted by psychlover on January 11, 2004, at 11:55:03
In reply to Re: Asking your T if he ever fantasizes about you? » ocdforyears, posted by crushedout on January 9, 2004, at 16:31:38
OCD,
Your story is extremely disturbing. Frankly, I am surprised that the therapist was not disbarred or had his license revoked or whatever. I do believe that that kind of behavior, crossing sexual boundaries with clients, is not only unethical but may even be illegal.
My own experiences with my therapist have been good in this area, and this is entirely because of her. She is 15-20 yrs older than me with a bunch of kids, but the most important factor that has kept our relationship from getting into a dangerous area are HER very strong boundaries. She has never given me any inkling whatsoever that she may be attracted to me, and her interest in me is clearly professional. I do believe she cares about my welfare, but she has very firm boundaries, and I give her a lot of credit for her professionalism.
Any therapist who has any thoughts of having any kind of relationship with their client outside of the office during their scheduled time is a menace to their clients and to the profession. Any therapist who would act out sexually with a client who is by definition vulnerable because of the nature of the relationship is an unethical opportunist who has no place in this field at all. We would be doing a service to everyone if we reported these people to the relevant organizations such as the American Psychological Association or the National Assoc. of Social Workers, etc.
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