Posted by crushedout on January 9, 2004, at 10:30:19
In reply to You're Doing Great » crushedout, posted by Rigby on January 9, 2004, at 10:13:05
Thanks, Rigby.It's helpful to be as honest as I can about my fantasies and feelings about her, right? That's how you work through it? Because that's what I've been doing lately (mostly by email).
I hope I'm not driving her crazy because I've been contacting her outside of sessions kind of a lot. But I've been sort of in crisis mode and I'm not usually such a demanding client. I hope she understands.
Yesterday my crisis was about the fees I owe her. She admitted (after basically not being honest with me for awhile about this) that she was uneasy with me owing her money. That's totally understandable, but it came as a shock because she told me so many times that it was ok. So that brought up a lot of hard feelings for me, all of which I emailed her about. I'm really considering cutting back or taking a break for financial reasons, in addition to giving me some space to maybe find other things in my life to replace this obsession/crush.
crushed
> Hi Crushed. This is really difficult stuff you've been going through--you will be rewarded for your hard work.
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> I absolutely understand the fantasy of wanting her to break all the rules and go off into the sunset with you. It's hard to let go of that dream. Big crushes die hard. Ugh how I know that one. However, when I let go of a similar fantasy with my therapist (kicking and screaming) that's when things in my life really started to change--not consciously but boy did life open up and become something worth living. But letting go didn't happen overnight. But how powerful ultimately it was to go through it all.
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> I'm glad she cares about you and is good at what she does--you deserve this. Hard to believe now but later down the road you'll be happy she didn't get sucked in. I never in a million years woulda thought this for myself but I do now.
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> I'm a big Woody Allen fan but relative to serious crushes and obsession, one of my favorite movies on the topic is Damage(Fatale). Juliette Binoche is easy on the eyes too. ;)
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> The only way out is through--and you've chosen to face your demons. You're doing great and will continue to do so.
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> Rigby
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